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Keep Running Girl

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I love you but I need a break. 

We’ve been spending an awful lot of time together over the last few months and I find myself drained and in need of some Elizabeth time.  I don’t want you to think that this has anything to do with you or with our relationship.  I still love you and I’m still going to take you to that big event this weekend just like I promised.  It’s just that after that, I need some time on my own.

If I’m being honest, it feels like back in 2015.  We had gone through our longest race ever together and I think after that we started up again too quickly.  Do you remember that?  Around January and February?  It felt like we were just going through the motions. We were so used to being together that we didn’t notice how much we were smothering each other.  Then, early March, we almost broke up.  I was hurting and the quack chiropractor told me you were no good for me.  That you’d ruin my hip.  I spent weeks in therapy over it.  That got me nowhere until the ortho told me that the chiro was just dead wrong. 

I know.  I know.  I was wrong for listening to someone who spoke so ill of you without speaking to you about it.  But do you remember how it felt, being together after that?  We were so happy.  So fast.  Every run was a joy.  It felt like our first time all over again.  Like we were a couple of teens in puppy love.

And then, you pushed too much and I got hurt again.  Was the PF to get me back for listening to the chiro?  I guess it doesn’t matter now so long as we both learn from our past.  No relationship is perfect.  We’ve both done things we regret.

So, what I guess I’m saying is that I want to avoid hurting each other in the future the way we did in the past.  I think after NY, I’m going to just chill by myself.  Maybe see the gym again.  We’ll still hang but no formal events for a bit.  Then, when we’re both ready, we’ll be so much better for it.  Us.  Our relationship.

I know it might be hard but believe me, I’m doing this for us.

Love,

Me

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CompulsiveRunner

Always better to initiate the break rather than hang around long enough to get dumped. Take care of yourself, KRG. Hope you have a great day on Sunday. 

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Keep Running Girl
9 minutes ago, CompulsiveRunner said:

Always better to initiate the break rather than hang around long enough to get dumped. Take care of yourself, KRG. Hope you have a great day on Sunday. 

Thanks!!!

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Dave

You'll still come see us, though, right, since you're going to stay friends? I know the norm is to break off with the friends of the ex, but really, we love you both so much.

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Keep Running Girl
2 minutes ago, Dave said:

You'll still come see us, though, right, since you're going to stay friends? I know the norm is to break off with the friends of the ex, but really, we love you both so much.

Absolutely.  I've missed you guys.  And it's not fair to make you choose.

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garbanzo a gogo

important thing is to run far enough in the race to connect with your friend at the hospital. The rest isn't really important. But you already know that ...

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RoyalDryness
28 minutes ago, CompulsiveRunner said:

Always better to initiate the break rather than hang around long enough to get dumped. Take care of yourself, KRG. Hope you have a great day on Sunday. 

This.

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Keep Running Girl
7 minutes ago, garbanzo a gogo said:

important thing is to run far enough in the race to connect with your friend at the hospital. The rest isn't really important. But you already know that ...

Last I heard, he was out and busy growing a new immune system.  He never said so directly, but I think things aren't great.  I try my best but he stopped keeping in touch.

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Brian

I had a stop in late September. I didn't make any plans to stop or even when to start again. Exactly 4 weeks later, I was back at it.

It was nice to get away from a plan and let it return to wanting to run.

Good luck!

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Keep Running Girl
1 minute ago, Brian said:

I had a stop in late September. I didn't make any plans to stop or even when to start again. Exactly 4 weeks later, I was back at it.

It was nice to get away from a plan and let it return to wanting to run.

Good luck!

That's what I'm hoping for. That it will just happen and feel good.

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Keep Running Girl
19 minutes ago, DrWhiskers said:

Sounds like the perfect time to run NYC in a silly costume. Just sayin...

omg

omg

How did this not even occur to me???

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Gonzo Runner

Holy crap I had the SAME conversation with whiskey two years ago. We're much better off now after the break. You and running will be too, wherever you land. (although I know I'm pulling for you crazy kids)

Enjoy NYC, and I now expect a costume filled race report. Lady Liberty might be a good one and easy to make. Just saying...

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amarie2009

I'm running Memphis (Dec 2) and then Austin (Feb 18 I think), the closest I've ever run marathons. My biggest fear is burning myself out or injuring myself. I am already planning Austin to just be a "fun" run with no time goal. But if I don't PR at Memphis that'll be hard to stick to. 

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Keep Running Girl
8 hours ago, amarie2009 said:

I'm running Memphis (Dec 2) and then Austin (Feb 18 I think), the closest I've ever run marathons. My biggest fear is burning myself out or injuring myself. I am already planning Austin to just be a "fun" run with no time goal. But if I don't PR at Memphis that'll be hard to stick to. 

Good luck!! I've done races close together in the past and didn't have much of an issue.  I think if I had some more time, I'd be okay.  I just wasn't ready to get straight back into high miles.  

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mattw

I often wonder how much our bodies can take. An annual marathon seems too much. I feel fine doing 30ish miles per week, but then I get these crazy "What If" ideas.

Enjoy the break. Hit that gym and get some different soreness for a while. But keep us updated!

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NCAthlete

The content is rather sad but I love the letter! True love will always find and way and you'll be back together before no time. Have a productive break!

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Keep Running Girl
2 hours ago, mattw said:

I often wonder how much our bodies can take. An annual marathon seems too much. I feel fine doing 30ish miles per week, but then I get these crazy "What If" ideas.

Enjoy the break. Hit that gym and get some different soreness for a while. But keep us updated!

Thanks!  I miss the gym.  I'll be around.  :)

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Keep Running Girl
2 hours ago, NCAthlete said:

The content is rather sad but I love the letter! True love will always find and way and you'll be back together before no time. Have a productive break!

That's what I'm thinking.  It's nothing a week or two of not having to run but getting to run won't fix. 

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BANGLE

Everybody needs a break after marathon training; a physical, mental and emotional break! All those miles can lead to burnout. Enjoy the downtime guilt-free and running will be there for you when you're ready.

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